This was a copy of nice message from my beloved friend, Bernard. I just
wanted to share.
May 28th
2013, 6:09
I try to Answer your question, dear ^.^
Dear, Krizthya...
Maybe this is answer
your question when we discussed.
I am so sorry, I am
imperfect.
There are two kinds
of men: Godly men, and worldly men.
What kind of man do
you want?
I’m betting you said
“a Godly man.”
Someday, you want to
marry a man who loves God with every fiber of his being
because he will be an
excellent husband and father.
He will honor and be
true only to you.
Most women want a
Godly man or at least think they do.
Well, I think I have
found a way to tell you exactly what kind of guy you will get.
I don’t even have to
know you! All I have to do is look at you.
The kind of guy you
want or will get is advertised by the clothing you wear.
I know what men want.
Trust me, I am a guy.
I know more guys than you do and I know them better.
I know what we think,
what we talk about, what we want, and what we look for,
and it is different
for each one of us depending on our relationship with God.
I’m sure you already
know this, but men were created differently than you.
We have different
desires and priorities.
Our eyes and minds
react very differently to some things than yours do.
It isn’t disgusting,
perverted, or wrong; it is wonderful and good!
It is how God made
us. It’s how we handle these differences that separate a Godly man from a
worldly man.
A worldly man doesn’t
control himself, rather, he looks at anything that attracts his attention or
gets him excited. A worldly guy has no problem when girls wear clothes that
show off skin, like boxers, high or low-cut shirts, low-rise jeans, and “cute”
little swim-suits.
He’s a fan of
tight-fitting shirts and pants that show off your form, he thinks they’re fine!
Worldly guy watches a
lot of TV and R-rated movies, isn’t really offended by sexual content or nudity
and secretly dabbles in pornography. He’s a “Christian” and makes up a
significant portion of your church and youth group. He’s a really nice guy and
sees you mainly for your body.
If you were to marry
worldly guy, he’d bring lots of baggage into the relationship, have intimacy
problems, entertain thoughts of other women, and possibly cheat on you.
A Godly man is in
control of his drives and desires.
He constantly seeks
God and reads his Bible.
He “walks in the
Spirit” and isn’t set off by everything he sees.
When
immodestly-dressed girls, magazine covers, or risqué advertisements come into
view, Godly guy quickly “bounces his eyes” away from the image.
He’s constantly
guarding his thoughts and what he allows into his mind.
He hates being around
girls that disrespect him and his struggles by wearing inappropriate attire.
Godly guy doesn’t
watch much TV and is selective about the movies he sees.
He views you as a
person, knows you and respects you.
He has your best
interests in mind and guards against inappropriate thoughts of you.
If you were to marry
Godly guy, he would give you the emotional attention you need,
he would ignore other
women and remain faithful to you no matter what.
Unfortunately, there
are more worldly men than Godly men.
And to make matters
worse, to the untrained eye, a worldly man can look a lot like a Godly man.
So what can you do to
only attract a Godly man?
An important way of
delineating between them lies in how you dress.
As mentioned before,
the clothes you wear advertise what kind of guy you are looking for.
If you dress
immodestly, you will attract worldly guys and scare away the Godly ones.
It all comes down to
the kind of man you want to spend your time around and eventually marry.
You cannot afford to
be complacent in this area of your life!
You will pay the
price someday.
This issue isn’t
limited strictly to you and your future relationship.
The way you dress
directly affects other men and women and their relationships.
You don’t see the
struggles, the pain, the tears and the sin that you cause, but I can promise
that you would be shocked if you did!
Ask any Christian
young man; we’ve all seen it. It’s kept hidden but it is definitely there.
By dressing
immodestly, you effectually spit on the struggles of our weaker ranks,
appearing to care more about toying with us than helping us.
You’ll never know how
many broken relationships and lifestyles of sin you’ve contributed to simply by
the way you dress.
You want to marry a
Godly man someday, well so do many other women.
Don’t just help
yourself and your future, help all women and their relationships by showing
discretion in your dress.
Of course, I
understand the desire to look stylish, attractive, and “cute.”
It’s important to fit
in and get attention. Trust me, it can be done modestly!
I also understand
that it is easier for some girls to find stylish and well-fitting clothes than
it is for others.
This is an area where
guys really don’t understand what you are up against.
But just remember,
for every sacrifice you make to honor God with your image, Godly men are making
sacrifices in their lives that are just as hard, if not harder!
They will and do
respect you so much for choosing to be modest!
A real lady is
conscientious of the image she presents, and real men want a real lady.
And you can forget
about any guys missing out on how attractive you are because you don’t wear
revealing clothing.
You could wear a
circus tent and we would still know; it’s a gift we have.
And so the question
still remains:
What kind of man do
you want?
Answer me with your
clothes.
Yeah, as a women, clothes are the
important problem. Clothes represent us to build our image in people sight, but
like what has been written, that to glorify God, we are not sufficiently praise
with melodious voice. We need to do all the will of God through His Word
...your body is the temple of God, for it is holy and purify up to the day of
His arrival ...
I am also learning how to glorify God
in every aspect of my life. I learned to don’t wake the fire of God's jealousy,
because we knew that the God who we worship is a jealous God. He wants us holy
and sacred in their entirety. Are the clothes that we wear is a tool to glorify
God, or just a cover to satisfy our personal desires and to bring the downfall
for fellow children of God? So the devil got a gap to attack us.
Attitude to want cleansed heart is the
heart attitude of a servant of God who will receive the affection of his
master.
-Blessed to be a blessing-
